You’re unique. Your experiences have helped to shape you into the person you are in this exact moment. That should be celebrated.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a cool display of athleticism on Facebook or Instagram and instantly began to think about whether I can do that same move. The thing is, I’m not them. I don’t have the same history, experiences, or goals as that person. I have to remind myself of that daily, because when I compare myself to someone else, it’s a slippery slope to becoming vain or bitter as a result. Neither of those emotions helps you motivate to do things that are beneficial for you long-term.
When you look at someone’s else accomplishments or abilities, it takes your focus away from what you should be prioritizing, yourself. When it comes to your physical wellness, it’s certainly ok to take in ideas from outside sources, but remember that they’re external. To do something meaningful and long-lasting, it’s important to focus on what drives you internally. Internal motivation is something you typically think you either have or don’t. I disagree. Everyone has it, you just need to take the time to reflect and figure out what that spark is that drives you to be better.
What you’ll find when you’ve uncovered your internal motivation is that you’ll be able to stay with new, value-aligned habits longer, allowing you to reap the benefits physically and mentally. Looking cool doing stuff isn’t typically enough motivation to get someone to stick to something when it gets hard. It’s important to take the time to reflect in order to figure out what your internal drives are.
Here’s one approach I like to practice yearly. Reflect by recording every fitness goal you’ve had and started in the past 3-5 years. Then consider what drove you to pursue that goal. Was it a conversation, some new information, or a picture or video you saw? If there are similarities between different goals, then group them together. Narrow down your various fitness goals to 1-2 main reasons, and use those base reasons as the foundation that helps give the next goal you come up with more meaning in your life.
Stay intent on making yourself better. Make sure the reasons are actually your own.